The celebration of my mother's life was last Friday. The sun shone all day, amidst a sea of grey, wet days both sides of the funeral. The word 'love' featured throughout the service including the poem 'Love' by George Herbert read by Jack my husband, and chosen by mum several years ago. Love was the … Continue reading Celebrating a life of love
My mum died in the early hours of this morning, peacefully in her sleep. Despite her dementia, she has remained physically strong and robust over the last four years. After each knock, scrape and illness, she has recovered completely, regaining her original strength. But not this time. Two falls and an infection less than a week ago led … Continue reading Mum dies peacefully
I made a commemoration gift for my mum and dad's golden anniversary. It became a useful tool to prompt memories and happy conversations with my mum. You may be interested to create a similar item for you loved one, so I hope this post inspires you.
Mum moved back into a care home last month. I have lived with her and cared for her over the last 12 months, but had always planned to return to my own home at the end of the year. I took lots of photos to capture our good times together, knowing these times were limited. I've enjoyed compiling these pictures, which bring back treasured memories.
Whether or not a move to a care home is planned or triggered by crisis, there is a lot you can to do to support the wellbeing of your loved one once they have moved. This post shares some ideas.
I haven’t felt like writing after my last blog post ‘Finding a good care home (part 2)’. Mum’s move to a new care home has been more traumatic than I imagined. It felt at times that all the months of preparation, shortlisting, interviews and visits were a complete waste of time.
On Thursday I described how I’m setting about finding a care home for mum. After a process involving “must have” criteria, shortlists, in-depth interviews and several visits, my sister and I finally chose two homes. We have reservations about both. It turns out one of them may have doubts about us! Thinking about respite Earlier … Continue reading Finding a Good Care Home for Mum (Part 2)
I’ve now been caring for mum for over a year in her home in South Wales. I thought I would be back in my home in Brighton by now, or at least that mum would be on the point of moving into a care home. I’m discovering it’s not that simple… Three homes meet “must … Continue reading Finding a Good Care Home for Mum (Part 1)
Mum and I spent seven hours in A&E on Saturday night. Not remembering where we were or why we were there mum got increasingly agitated. I wonder if the whole experience could be made better for people with dementia and their carers.
In Carers Week 2019, I highlight three must-do, top tips for family carers of people living with dementia.