It’s been several weeks since I attended a valuable and engaging programme for carers of people living with dementia. It is a new initiative, and this was the first in a series of pilot courses run by the Royal Surgical Aid Society. Since the three-day programme, that took place in a comfortable hotel in Swindon, I … Continue reading New Course for Family Carers of People with Dementia
The Mental Capacity Act 2005 protects people living with dementia. A friend of mine, who works in social care, had mentioned the Act to me in response to some concerns I had about my mother. Feeling overwhelmed by all that I didn’t know about caring for someone with dementia, I didn't look further into it … Continue reading Law Protects People with Dementia
Since mum went into care in October 2015, I have been wondering whether an institutional home is the right place for her. Experts and professionals involved in dementia care have insisted to me that she is better off in a care home. This reassurance has put my mind at rest for weeks, and even months, at a time. However, the question invariably comes back with greater force and more insistence than before.
Recently, I had some success helping mum move from fear and distress to being able to smile again. Deep breathing and mindfulness helped. If you care for someone with dementia who is sometimes fraught, this might work for them too. Feeling fraught When I arrived to visit mum at the care home, she was in … Continue reading Mindfulness and Dementia
Whether you care for a relative with dementia at home, or visit them in a care home, you need to be mindful of the potential toll on your own physical and mental health. Helpful advice that I dismissed. Don’t make the same mistake.
Is it OK to deceive someone who has dementia? The general view seems to be yes, if it helps avoid unnecessary distress, and is in their best interests to do so. But how do you assess when that is? One major deception has been troubling me…
Mum often suffers high levels of anxiety and becomes very tearful and down. These strong emotional states are getting worse, and seem heightened following her change of room at the care home. I still haven't managed to unearth the core elements that will enable me to develop a 'Contented Dementia' plan, described in previous posts. … Continue reading Tackling Anxiety and Depression
Last Friday, my mother moved into a new room on a newly created lower ground floor in her care home. Having created the new floor, the care home sought to separate residents so that those who had ‘nursing’ needs above usual dementia support, stayed on the original floor. Nine residents including my mother were moved … Continue reading Changing Rooms
The worst part of every encounter with my mother comes when it is time to say goodbye. I sometimes stay at the care home much longer than I planned, trying to find the best moment to go. When the time comes she often seems surprised, and asks, ‘You’re not leaving me here on my own, … Continue reading How to Say Goodbye
Last Friday, mum burst into tears when I arrived at the care home. She was upset about not being able to pay for lunch, having accumulated debts, and having to rely on others. Lunch is included and she’s not in debt, but yes, she is relying on others. Through her tears, she explained that her … Continue reading Finding the Contented Dementia formula