In this post, I share what I learnt about creating a life story book with mum. After sharing encouraging experiences of some reminiscence activities, I chart six steps to creating a life story book.
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This time last year I was by mum’s side saying my goodbyes. Since then, instead of mourning her loss, I have been preoccupied with another threat to my world and wellbeing. While I was away from home caring for mum, cracks erupted in my previously strong and successful marriage. I desperately hoped we could fix … Continue reading Marriage breakdown: A casualty of caring?
The Hunter Centre asked me to write about my experience of caring for my mother. As an organisation that supports people living with dementia and their carers, they wanted to bring a personal perspective to navigating this sometimes challenging area. I wrote the following post for them. It is a summary of my caring journey … Continue reading Mum, me and dementia: Learning the important things in life
The celebration of my mother's life was last Friday. The sun shone all day, amidst a sea of grey, wet days both sides of the funeral. The word 'love' featured throughout the service including the poem 'Love' by George Herbert read by Jack my husband, and chosen by mum several years ago. Love was the … Continue reading Celebrating a life of love
My mum died in the early hours of this morning, peacefully in her sleep. Despite her dementia, she has remained physically strong and robust over the last four years. After each knock, scrape and illness, she has recovered completely, regaining her original strength. But not this time. Two falls and an infection less than a week ago led … Continue reading Mum dies peacefully
I made a commemoration gift for my mum and dad's golden anniversary. It became a useful tool to prompt memories and happy conversations with my mum. You may be interested to create a similar item for you loved one, so I hope this post inspires you.
Mum moved back into a care home last month. I have lived with her and cared for her over the last 12 months, but had always planned to return to my own home at the end of the year. I took lots of photos to capture our good times together, knowing these times were limited. I've enjoyed compiling these pictures, which bring back treasured memories.
Mum and I spent seven hours in A&E on Saturday night. Not remembering where we were or why we were there mum got increasingly agitated. I wonder if the whole experience could be made better for people with dementia and their carers.
Since I got back from holiday mum has been more grumpy than usual. Sometimes she feels she has been wronged, withdraws, gives monosyllabic responses and behaves a bit like a sulky teenager. Not just with me, but with special carers that she normally gets on with.